How To Evict Unwanted Thoughts When Mourning

Have some of your thoughts related to the death of a loved one caused sleepless nights? Are negative thoughts, concerning how you will manage alone, increasing the pain of loss? Or, are you a chronic worrier, and the flood of thoughts at times is just unbearable?

If you can say yes to any of these questions it is critical to understand at the outset that you can find ways to reduce the effects of bothersome thoughts. Here’s how.

One Way To Adapt To The Death Of Your Loved One

I have often heard people who are mourning say that they are not ready to move forward and reinvest in life after the death of their loved one. This is not unusual, since every grief is different because the emotional investment each person has in the deceased is one-of-a-kind.

Mistakenly, we sometimes equate moving forward as forgetting the loved one. In reality, moving forward means establishing new routines, using your strengths to reinvest in life—and most importantly—learning to love in separation. There are many ways we can show our love for the deceased even though he/she is not physically present.

How To Find And Use A Needed Sanctuary When Mourning

Over three decades ago a grief therapist wrote that one of the most significant needs of anyone mourning the death of a loved one is to find safe people and safe places. Why? Because when we are hurting in our grief we are vulnerable and in need of protection that promotes a sense of security and safety.

Sanctuary has multiple meanings, however, I use it here to indicate a special place that provides rest, safety, as well as an informative and supportive environment, at a time when our defenses are down and we need reassurance.

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